Friday, June 22, 2012

Discipline, Really Only for Children?

Discipline, Really Only for Children?

The word discipline comes from Latin, discipulus, which means "learner". So the discipline is actually focused on teaching. For most parents, a child is a student of his parents, so they are accustomed to being able to obey what is said by parents.

At present, the average parent applies punishment as a method to discipline their child. There are various kinds of punishment given by parents to children. There are penalties that can have a positive impact, but some can have a negative impact. Not all penalties are appropriate and can be used in educating children.

Actually punishment and discipline are two different things. Punishment is usually applied through an emotional 'force' or even by using violence. Punishment may be applied at this time to eliminate the behavior of children who are not good or unwanted, but the penalty does not guarantee that the behavior will not appear later.

While discipline as the definition is a lesson, children are taught values ​​in everyday life. At its implementation let the child choose for himself what he chooses to act in order to 'learn' about the consequences of his own actions.

In applying discipline to children, there are many things that parents who should be positive should do. Training child discipline means maintaining good and healthy communication with the child, monitoring the child's development from time to time, and perhaps being able to make a kind of 'small rule' regarding the limits of a child's behavior. For example, we say to a child "you must be polite", without us explaining what is meant by polite and what the limits of a behavior are said to be polite and impolite.

When parents set a 'small rule' set on the child must also be adjusted to the child's ability. Sometimes parents are unfair in implementing regulations. For example, when you are sick you cannot eat foods that are prohibited by doctors. When a child has a fever, parents will forbid them to eatice cream. Then, at the same time the parents were coughing but their parents ate fried foods. Someone might respond immediately "Daddy is coughing again, why eat fried foods? Can't you?"

Most parents will respond with reasons that make the child finally accept that this is not wrong. When children violate this, parents will judge that the behavior is wrong, but when parents violate it, they have a variety of reasons that they think are reasonable and inevitably the child must accept that their parents are not wrong. The child seems forced to understand and understand his parents without considering the child's own abilities.

Another example, children are prohibited from watching television until late at night. But his parents gave an example. Then the child will wonder in his mind, why can the parent while he is not. In the house, children learn from their parents. They will see a causal relationship that appears, for example when they are wrong they will be punished by being scolded. Indirectly, this will be translated by the child in his own mind. If there is no explanation from the parents, then do not be surprised or surprised if one day the child will be angry when he considers something wrong or not in accordance with what he wants. If there is an application of discipline to children, it may be necessary to apply discipline to parents.

By: Eka Hertika Rizky, Bandung

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